Couples Therapy
Change the way you relate, not just how you argue.
Maybe you’re stuck in the same arguments, feeling misunderstood or miles apart from each other, even when you’re in the same room. Maybe you still care, but it feels like you’ve drifted into parallel lives feeling more like housemates than partners.
Or maybe something big has changed, a new baby, a move, a loss, and suddenly the way you relate to each other feels unfamiliar. You’re trying to hold it all together, but it’s getting harder and harder.
Most relationships go through difficult seasons. Patterns form over time shaped by stress, old wounds, changing roles, and the weight of everyday life. Even strong relationships can feel strained under pressure.
It’s easy to feel that you should be able to work it out on your own, but you don’t have to. With the right support, it’s possible to move out of stuck patterns and rekindle your connection.
Most couples don’t fall apart all at once. Disconnection often builds slowly through misunderstandings that never quite get resolved, small hurts that go unspoken, or the gradual fading of warmth under the weight of daily life. You might find yourselves stuck in the same arguments, or walking on eggshells to avoid them altogether. The conversations that once felt easy now feel loaded. The silences stretch a little longer.
Couples therapy offers a space to step out of those patterns and begin to see things more clearly. Together, we look at what’s happening beneath the surface and shine a light on the places where you’ve felt unheard, the moments where things go off track, and the ways you each try to protect yourselves when it feels too hard to stay close.
Over time, small changes star to appear - a conversation that doesn’t spiral, connection where there used to be tension, a feeling of being on the same side again. Therapy can help you listen without defensiveness, express what you need without fear, and begin to reconnect in ways that feel honest and safe. Bit by bit, the relationship begins to shift. Not returning to how it used to be, but moving towards something more connected and secure.
Gottman Method
The Gottman Method is a practical, evidence-based approach developed from over 40 years of research into what makes relationships work, and what causes them to break down. It focuses on helping couples strengthen friendship and intimacy, manage conflict more effectively, and build shared meaning in their relationship.
Therapy begins with a four-session assessment process, including joint and individual sessions and a suite of psychometric assessments. This gives us time to explore your relationship in depth, understand each of your perspectives, and decide on the best way forward together.
In therapy, we use structured exercises and conversations to understand where things have been getting stuck and to support healthier ways of relating. You’ll learn how to communicate more openly, respond to one another with more understanding, and shift away from patterns that keep leading to disconnection. The work is grounded in what research tells us really makes a difference — but it’s tailored to your relationship and your goals.
Systemic Therapy
Systemic Therapy is all about context. It focuses on the patterns and dynamics that shape how you relate to each other. Rather than seeing the problem as something located in one partner, it explores how each person’s experiences, roles, and responses interact over time.
This approach is especially helpful when there are repeating conflicts, feelings of being stuck, or challenges connected to life transitions, such as becoming parents or blending families. It helps you zoom out, understand what’s really going on underneath the surface, and begin to relate in more intentional, connected ways. Systemic thinking is woven throughout my work with couples and helping us explore your relationship with compassion and curiosity.
What it all means in practice
What kind of couples do you work with?
I work with couples at all stages — whether you’ve been together a few months or a few decades. You might be facing specific challenges (like communication issues, affairs, or parenting differences), or you might just feel disconnected and want to strengthen your bond. All couples are welcome, regardless of age, background, or relationship structure.
What can I expect in the first few sessions?
Couples therapy begins with a structured four-session assessment. This includes a joint session, two individual sessions (one with each of you), and a final session to go over what we’ve learned and agree on a plan. This approach helps us build a shared understanding of what’s going on in your relationship: what’s feeling stuck, what’s working, and where you’d like to go from here.
Why is the assessment process so important?
The assessment isn’t just about gathering information, it’s a key part of the therapy itself. It helps both of you feel heard, gives us a fuller picture of your relationship, and ensures the work that follows is tailored to your needs and goals. Taking this time up front often means therapy can be more focused and effective.
What if my partner isn’t sure about coming to therapy?
It’s very common for one partner to feel more ready than the other. If you’re unsure how to approach this, we can talk through your concerns. Sometimes, a first joint session can help both of you get a sense of whether it feels like the right fit.
How long does couples therapy last?
It depends on your goals and what’s bringing you to therapy. Some couples come for a handful of sessions to get back on track, while others prefer longer-term support. We’ll check in regularly to make sure the work feels useful and aligned with what you both want.
Do we need to be at breaking point to come to therapy?
Not at all. Some couples come because something difficult has happened, but many seek support simply because they want to feel closer, improve how they communicate, or stop small issues from growing. You don’t have to be at your lowest to benefit, therapy can be helpful at any stage of your relationship.
Still partners, not only parents.
Becoming parents changes so much, including your relationship. The moments of connection can get lost in the noise of nappies, night feeds, and constant demands. You love your new baby, but you miss your partner. You miss having time to talk properly, to laugh, to be held. And maybe you wonder if it’s normal to feel this far apart.
So many couples go through this, they love each other deeply, but feel completely lost in the chaos of new parenthood. You might still laugh at the same things, but the closeness just feels a bit harder to reach.
This guide was created with you in mind. It’s a gentle, supportive Gottman inspired workbook with simple ways to reconnect, manage conflict and rebuild intimacy.
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